My ex has abused me now with Child Support

I have just had a blazing row with my ex on the phone.

I just realised that last Friday, unlike what he has been doing since we separated, he did not pay me the right amount of money for my child support.

I am raising two children and I need at least $400 a week to do it. I don't work as I am a committed full-time mother, and $200 is simply a joke. Because I am committed to my kids does not mean that he can rip me off. Its my money not his, as I spend it on his kids.

I gave him a piece of my mind on the phone and told him that if I don't get the $200 he owes me by next Friday, then I will not let him talk to the kids on the phone anymore. He claimed that I am not paying rent so it evens out, but what kind of logic is that? I have the kids so its my house now, so rent has nothing to do with it.

I think he is trying to pressure me to let him see the kids again, but why should I? If I do then he will simply use that as an excuse to reduce my child support.

Its just not fair. Fathers have all the power and mothers have no power at all. He is being so malicious to me, and nobody will help me.

He told me that if I didn't like it that I should apply to the Child Support Agency to assess us. This is obviously a trick that I will not fall in to.

He is wrong if he thinks he can push me around.

I know if I go to my parents for help they will start supporting my ex again, just like they always do. I feel so sorry for all women who are abused like I am on a daily basis by these men who don't care about their kids at all.

Phone Calls

I have been letting my ex talk to the kids over the phone on a daily basis over the Christmas break.

I don't have a problem with him speaking to them over a phone given that it is safe and doesn't intrude on me too much. I am kind enough to let him do this, but no-one gives me credit for this.

Everyone always assumes that the mother is the trouble-maker, not the father. This is sexism!

Even my parents can't admit all the compromises I make for my ex.

Sometimes I wonder if its even worth it. Maybe I should simply be a bitch and not care what people think.

Fathers' groups

I have been told that some people have been sending emails about my blog to fathers' groups.

I have been sent an email from a website called dadsontheair and another called fathers4equality as proof.

I think this is a good thing.

I hope the men on these websites can learn something by reading my blog.

I hope you can see how mother's feel about their kids, and how important it is not to threaten us by trying to take our kids away from us.

Yes, I know you guys are fathers, but its just not the same. Mothers are naturally designed to care for kids. Fathers are rough and don't understand children like mothers do.

I think its time that these shared care laws gets changed back to the way things were. I think if you read how badly these laws have affected me you would understand that these laws are simply not good for mothers and their children.

I hope these changes will happen in 2010, and I have been told from a very good authority that these laws will be repealed in full in the first half of this year.

So please don't make a fuss when it happens. Maybe think about the best interests of your children for once.

Postings from fathers

I have recently been getting some posts from fathers.

If you guys are reading this, then why is it that you want to steal children from their mothers?

My ex only cares about spending time with his kids. He doesn't care what this is doing to me. He is totally selfish.

Please think about what you men are doing. These shard care laws are really bad. They are separating something that is natural. Children belong with their mothers.

A child spending time with their father, especially if she is a girl, IS JUST NOT NATURAL.

Get over it. Move on with your life and leave us poor mothers alone.

Xmas day

My ex was begging me to see the kids on Xmas day. I said No!

He even went to my parent's place and cried.

At the end of the day it is my right to decide what is best for my kids, and I truly believe that he sexually abused my son. Imagine what he could do to my daughter if he was alone wit her.

I didn't do anything wrong. Its a mother's instinct and experts have agreed with me. I have seen so many videos on youtube of amzing mother's that have lost their kids to child molesters, because family law in this country in anti-mother.

I didn't do anything wrong. I was brave to do what I did.

Barbara Biggs

Just to let you know that I got in touch with Barbara Biggs and she said I should immediately stop all contact for the father because this is definitely a case of child sexual abuse.

I knew it was but no one else believed me. Everyone accused me of lying, even my parents.

This will wipe the smile off my ex's face. No one will mess with me and get away with it!

Its NOT my fault!

To all you women who have written to me, it's not my fault! Its my ex's fault. He is to blame NOT me!

Anyway, my neighbour did it too so why should't I? If anyone should be accused of lying its my neighbour who freely admits it, not me.

And before you accuse me of anything, have you seen the videos on YouTube by Barbara Biggs? It seems that all mothers who claimed child sexual abuse are now NOT believed. It's these videos that convinced me that I had to do something.

The laws should be changed to the way they were, so thank God there are women like Barbara Biggs around who knows which side she is on.