Really good news!

I got a call today from a family advisor called Kathy. She is from our local Family Relationship Centre.

She told me that my ex had contacted them and asked for mediation.

She called to ask if I would attend.

I told her No! and explained why.

She listened carefully to everything I said and agreed with me. She also complained that the new laws were stuffed and believes that mothers should not be forced into mediation.

But she said that this is the law now and I should go.

I kept on complaining and she gave me some advise, on the hush hush.

She said if I said that I am scared of him or that he has sexually abused the kids, that I DON"T have to go to mediation, and there is nothing he can do about it.

I told her my fears of what he is doing to my son when he is alone with him, and she agreed that I should stop all contact immediately.

She said its better to be safe than sorry. She said if he complained then he can pay to see the boy once a month at a contact centre while being fully supervised.

I just didn't know about this! I thought that even if they were sexually abusing children that you still had to share custody with them.

This is great news. I just wanted to share with everyone in case they are being forced to go to mediation as well.

Cyn

Mediation or Court

My ex just called me and he said that because I do not agree to attend mediation that he can now take me to Court. He said that this is the law and my refusal to attend mediation will look bad in Court.

Is this true? Do I have to go to mediation by law?

Help someone.

I will not attend Mediation

I decided that I will not agree to mediation with my ex.

If I agree he will see this as a weakness on my part and this will encourage him. He has already brainwashed my son by buying him toys and taking him to the rugby and stuff like that, and he will do the same to my daughter if I gave him half the chance.

I have to protect my children and if that means going to court then I will do it.

I do not work so does that mean that I qualify for legal aid automatically? It's all based on your income isn't it, or do they consider things like the value of your home and your other assets?

I really appreciate everyone's support in this. Its really confusing for me right now but with your help I feel confident that I am doing the best thing for my kids.

Thanks

Cynth